My friend told me about this book. A friend was delighted with the book and highly recommended that I read the book too, providing a link to an online resource psychological literature. Let me make a reservation right away: I am very, very distrustful of books of this kind, but curiosity got the better of me. Moreover, the title and author turned out to be painfully familiar. Then I enthusiastically swallowed "Five Traumas"

from cover to cover and counted the conclusions of Mrs. Burbo smart and logical. I looked for all the described traumas in myself, thinking “wow, this is right on point, it’s all about me,” I admired the simplicity and ease of writing. But then I began to become more and more critical of what was written. Liz Burbo , because there are more than enough inconsistencies and inaccuracies in the book.

Greetings to readers Chapter 1 , which is called The occurrence of injuries and masks . And almost immediately you see postulates about incarnation, coming to this planet, the soul and God. This will be repeated often in the book, so be prepared. I don’t know how appropriate such formulations are in scientific (?) literature, but oh well. I'll leave it to the author's conscience. Let’s move on to the most important thing, the reason why people read "Five Traumas" , to the trauma masks themselves.

That is, if they reject your essence, you rejected , if they leave you and move away, then abandoned , if they often insult/belittle, then humiliated , if you betrayed trust, then you have betrayal trauma , if they didn’t recognize it, then you’re worried the trauma of injustice . The author takes upon himself the task of describing each of the injuries, in the end they all merge into one, and you can’t tell them apart from one another. I'll take the most obvious example. Rejected And abandoned . So.

Both are in a state of depression and anxiety, it is very difficult for both to express themselves, both have a fragile body lacking tone (we will talk about the body according to trauma separately), both are more inside, in themselves, rather than in the outside world.

And how to differentiate them? For me the question remains open.

I was very puzzled and at the same time outraged by the description of a person’s physique according to his injury. The author boldly sends biology and genetics to hell. This is especially true in the case of humiliated .

Mom and Dad are gaining weight quickly, should they loosen their control? Do most grandparents have the same thing? What are you saying, it’s not genetics, it’s humiliation And masochist mask ! You simply consider yourself low and soulless.

Let’s say the reader has finally broken through the jungle of esoteric views Liz Burbo, obvious inconsistencies and errors, separated one from the other and found his trauma. Of course, he will want to find a way out, but the book hardly describes any way out. Esoteric fabrications begin again on the topic “the human soul comes here to be rejected , feel betrayed or injustice ". Continuous decay and hopelessness. If you really want, in the book, of course, you can find tips on getting rid of trauma, but they don’t really work...

"Five Traumas" very easy to read. And this is practically the only plus.

Purely by chance, in a bookstore, my hand reached out to Liz Burbo’s book “5 Injuries That Prevent You from Being Yourself.” Having bought this book, I read it in 2 days and realized that it did not fall into my hands by chance, it was just time to deal with my childhood trauma, which affects my adult life. As strange as it may sound, while reading this book, it seemed to me that the author knew me even better than I knew myself, as well as my loved ones and acquaintances. If you are interested, but you don’t have time to read the book, then I wrote this article for you.

Perhaps we should start with the fact that every person has a trauma, and maybe more than one, that he received in childhood thanks to his mother or father, or the person who raised him. This trauma forces us to put on a mask in life in order not to experience pain, betrayal and humiliation again. The fear of being abandoned or rejected again forces us to adhere to a certain pattern of behavior so that no one will ever guess about our suffering, not even ourselves. Liz Burbo, as a result of many years of practice, has identified 5 traumas that prevent us from living, masks that we unknowingly put on, and methods for healing childhood wounds.

5 injuries that interfere with life:

1. Trauma – Rejected

A person who has received this injury does not feel the right to exist in this world. It may be an unwanted child who was nevertheless born, or it may be a child who was rejected by a parent of the same sex from the moment of birth to one year. Such a person has been wearing the “Fugitive” mask since childhood; he longs to run away, disappear, evaporate and not take up so much space. For this reason, by the way, he looks very thin, even skinny, since the body reacts to subconscious desire. You will always see fear in the eyes of a fugitive, he is very unsure of himself, he feels awkward in large companies, is always silent and tries to disappear as quickly as possible and find himself in such comfortable solitude. Another one characteristic feature the fugitive - the desire for perfection in everything; if he does something, he does it perfectly or does not begin to do it at all. In this way, he tries to realize himself and prove to himself that there is something to love him for. People suffering from the trauma of being rejected often have problems with the skin, since it is the organ of contact with the outside world; problematic skin seems to push away from itself external world and says with all his appearance: “Don’t touch me.” Also, such people tend to suffer from diarrhea, since they themselves suffer from the trauma of being rejected, they reject food that has not had time to be digested. For the same reason, they may often vomit. Some escapees escape from reality with the help of alcohol, this helps them temporarily disappear and stop experiencing aching pain.

2. Trauma - abandoned

The next of the 5 traumas that interfere with life is abandonment. A person who carries this trauma within himself received it because of a parent of the opposite sex, since he did not pay him due attention, did not show care and love. This is why someone suffering from abandonment trauma experiences constant emotional hunger and strives to “catch on” to another person in order to satisfy this hunger. The mask used by the abandoned is “Dependent”. He is sure that he cannot achieve anything on his own, without the support of other people, he simply needs words of approval and advice, which he then, by the way, does not follow. The main thing for him is to have a person nearby whom he can rely on, since he is not confident in his abilities. The addict’s physique corresponds to his injury: a thin, long body that has underdeveloped muscles. From the outside it seems that the muscular system will not support his body and in order not to fall, the person simply needs to lean on someone. This happens in life too. Experiencing emotional hunger, the addict strives to find at least someone to depend on. At the same time, he does not know how to control his emotions: he gets upset over a trifle, cries easily, and after a minute he can laugh again. Such a person is usually very suspicious, inclined to exaggerate and dramatize everything, “making mountains out of molehills” - this is about her. More than anything else, an addict is afraid of loneliness, because then there is no one to get attention, support and help from. A person suffering from abandonment trauma often has a childish timbre of voice, likes to ask a lot of questions and has difficulty accepting rejection, as this again makes him feel abandoned. The most common diseases associated with this injury are asthma, myopia, migraines and depression.

3. Trauma - humiliated

A humiliated child experiences insults, criticism, and reproach from the very beginning. early age, but most often the trauma of the humiliated person manifests itself if the child hears all this from the mother in the period from 1 to 3 years. If the mother accuses the child, making him feel guilty and ashamed, then he, in turn, perceives this as humiliation, especially if the conversation takes place in front of strangers. In the future, such a child puts on the “Masochist” mask. This means that all his life a person will look for problems, humiliation and various situations in which he can suffer. Since childhood, he has experienced humiliation, has not heard a kind word, so he does not consider himself worthy of a different attitude, even to himself. Since he is used to always being ashamed of everything, the body listens to his subconscious and grows in its volume. A masochist takes up a lot of space not only in space, but also in the lives of other people. He strives to help everyone, solve problems for them, give advice and point out. Such a person seems kind because he voluntarily takes part in the problems of other people, but in fact this behavior is motivated by the fear of shame in front of others and himself. He is ready to do everything so that he is no longer criticized and finally praised! A masochist is usually hypersensitive, the slightest trifle hurts and offends him, but he, as a rule, does not even notice those moments when he offends and hurts other people. A person with the trauma of humiliation often suffers from back diseases, since he takes an unbearable burden on his shoulders - responsibility for the lives of other people, as well as respiratory diseases, when he is suffocated by other people's problems, thyroid gland, since it is difficult for him to realize his needs and express his own requirements.

4. Trauma – betrayal

This trauma is experienced by a child aged 2-4 years with a parent of the opposite sex. The child feels that the parent has betrayed him every time he does not keep his word, prefers someone else over him, or when he abuses the child’s trust. In this case, the child, in order not to feel the pain of the injury, wears a “Controller” mask. The body develops in accordance with this mask, it radiates strength and power, showing with all its appearance that the owner is a responsible person and can be trusted. Such a person is confident in his abilities, he loves to be the first and the best, he is used to controlling himself and others. He is very demanding of others as well as himself and is often disappointed that he cannot trust them with anything and has to do everything himself. The controller loves speed in his actions, so he gets very annoyed when someone does his job slowly. Often such a person becomes aggressive if the situation gets out of his control. He tries to foresee and plan everything in order to avoid another betrayal in his life. He rarely listens to others and acts as he sees fit, but demands from others that they strictly follow his recommendations. People who carry the trauma of betrayal most often suffer from problems with the digestive system, agrophobia, joint diseases and diseases whose names end in -it.

5. Trauma is injustice

A child experiences this trauma primarily with a same-sex parent between the ages of three and five. Protective mask – “Rigidity”. Rigid strives for justice and perfection, it is very difficult for him to understand that what he does may seem unfair to others and vice versa - how others treat him may seem unfair only to him, since he suffers from this trauma. The rigid physique is perfect and proportional, because this is fair... Such a person is very hardworking, he has always been valued for his achievements and successes, and not just like that. But he is often prone to conflicts, as he is an ardent fighter for justice. The biggest fear for a rigid person is the fear of making a mistake, because then he may act unfairly towards others, and he tries to prevent this. Unfortunately, a rigid person often refuses the blessings of life if he considers it unfair for others and envies others if he believes that they are not worthy of it. In such a constant struggle, he earns himself nervous exhaustion, constipation, loss of vision and insomnia.

The first step to healing 5 traumas that interfere with life is their awareness, acceptance and only then working with them. By the way, you don’t need to blame your parents for everything, because as Liz Burbo writes in her book, souls already knew what traumas in life they needed to receive in order to work out their karma and simply chose parents who would provide them with the necessary conditions. The responsibility for your life always lies with you, and other people and situations are a reflection of your inner decision to experience certain lessons.