Please explain the meaning of the following idioms... see explanations and got a better answer

Answer from Prickly Thistle[guru]
The Massacre of the Innocents is an episode of New Testament history described in the Gospel of Matthew. In a figurative sense, the phrase means excessive cruelty towards the defenseless.
Living corpse - According to Fedor Protasov, the main novel of the same name by Leo Tolstoy, the surrounding life is riddled with dirt and falsehood. He does not want to participate "in all this dirty tricks", he does not have the courage to fight it, and he chooses the third way: forget himself, drink, walk with gypsies. In a figurative sense, it means a person who is not interested in anything, going with the flow, apathetic.
Noble Nest - the name of Turgenev's novel, in a figurative sense - the father's house, family estate.
Man in a case - This is how it is said about people who are separated from the world, live as if in their "case", afraid of the outside world and all its cruelty. "The Man in the Case" is a work by Chekhov.
A million torments "- a critical article by the famous Russian writer Ivan Aleksandrovich Goncharov. Written in 1872 and dedicated to A. S. Griboyedov's comedy "Woe from Wit". The very title of the article comes from Chatsky's phrase from Woe from Wit. In a figurative sense - numerous, but empty chores.
The Last of the Mohicans" The Last of the Mohicans is a historical novel by American writer James Fenimore Cooper, first published in 1826. In a figurative sense - an endangered, disappearing type (of people).
A very common use of the concept of "specific gravity" - some component of the whole, as the ratio of the magnitude of this component to the magnitude of the whole - is nothing more than a figurative meaning of a physical term.
Sound the alarm - call to pay attention to something.
To withdraw into oneself - to isolate oneself from the world and society, not to communicate with anyone, to retire.
Go into your shell - the same thing, see above.
The first glove is the champion, the best, the invincible.
Give oak - die, die. From the 10th century, the Slavs wrapped the dead in birch bark, and from about the 12th century they began to bury the dead in dugout oak logs - stupas (hence the expression “give oak” or “give oak ahead of time", that is, to die).
Giving oak is rude. simple. die. There are two versions of the origin of this expression. 1) The turnover arose on Russian soil and is associated with the verb zadubet - "to cool down, lose sensitivity, become hard." 2) The expression originated in the south of Russia. It can be assumed that the dead were buried under the oak, and perhaps the image of the turnover is different. It is only curious that the tree - a symbol of longevity - began to be used to denote death.
Reach the ceiling - do your best, reach the top (one's own). Exhaust all possibilities.

Answer from Natalya Kozhevnikova[newbie]
MASSACRE OF THE INNOCENTS. Iron. Brutal massacre of innocent, defenseless people; applying excessively strict measures to many people.
LIVING DEAD. About a man decrepit physically and devastated spiritually.
NOBLE NEST. Obsolete About the noble family, the estate.
MAN IN A CASE. Iron. (Man) living by his own narrow interests; fenced off from people, from life; stagnant and closed.
SPECIFIC WEIGHT of whom, what. Relative value, role.
SHAKE THE ALARM. Razg. Express. To pay everyone's attention to the threatening danger, trying to warn it, calling for the fight against it.
GIVE OAK. Prost. Die.
REACH THE CEILING. Razg. Exhaust all possibilities.
THE LAST OF THE MOKIGAN. an extinct tribe of North American Indians.
GO INTO YOUR SHELL. close up

withdraw into yourself GO INTO YOURSELF. GO INTO YOURSELF. Express. 1. To be absorbed in your thoughts; delve into your thoughts without noticing the surroundings. He knew this feature of her withdrawing into herself and knew that this happens only when she decides on something in her mind, without telling him her plans.(L. N. Tolstoy. Anna Karenina). 2. Become withdrawn, stop communicating with people, avoid them. Meeting with such self-confident and unceremonious ... people, Konstantin Semyonovich usually closed himself, or, as they say, went into himself(G. Matveev. New director).

Phrasebook Russian literary language. - M.: Astrel, AST. A. I. Fedorov. 2008 .

See what "Go into yourself" is in other dictionaries:

go into yourself shut oneself off, isolate oneself, close oneself, go deep into oneself, hide in one's shell, withdraw into one's shell Chinese wall, close in your shell Dictionary of Russian synonyms ... Synonym dictionary

withdraw into yourself- MYSELF, myself, myself (myself), about myself, places. return Dictionary Ozhegov. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Shvedova. 1949 1992 ... Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov

Get rid, get rid of your annoying thoughts, feelings, moods. He clearly saw that Gudkov left himself, threw himself somewhere forward and began to live in what was still being born (Sergeev Tsensky. Babaev). [Chetunov] wanted to go to bed, even... Phraseological dictionary of the Russian literary language

go into yourself- who It means that the person (X) is completely absorbed in his experiences, thoughts, indulges in deep reflection, not noticing the environment. And suddenly the boy, having launched another boat, remained in place. I thought. Went into himself. His eyes are still...

GO INTO YOURSELF- who Become unsociable, withdrawn. This means that person (X) avoids people, avoids communication. speech standard. ✦ X went into himself. Nominal part invariable. Only ed. h. In the role of a tale. The word order of the components is fixed. ⊙ When it happens… … Phraseological dictionary of the Russian language

go into yourself- Become unsociable, withdrawn, focus on your thoughts, experiences ... Dictionary of many expressions

Get away / get away- Razg. 1. Indulge in deep reflection, not noticing the surroundings. 2. Become unsociable, withdrawn, avoid people. FSRYA, 500; F 2, 226; ZS 1996, 228; BTS, 1379 ...

Get away / walk away- Razg. Get rid of your annoying thoughts, feelings, moods. F 2, 218 ... Big Dictionary Russian sayings

LEAVE- I'll leave, you'll leave, please. gone, gone; departed; leaving and (colloquially) gone, owls. (to leave (1)). 1. Go, go from where n., leaving, leaving some n. place. “Girlfriends went to the forest for raspberries.” Nekrasov. “Belovzorov took his leave; I left with him." … Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov

leave- I'll leave, you'll leave; gone, gone, gone; departed; leaving and (colloquial) gone; St. 1. Leave, leave what l. place, what society, walking, moving at a pace. Quickly at W. from the cinema. U. from acquaintances. Went a long distance. W. forward. U. unexpectedly ... ... encyclopedic Dictionary

Books

• Get away from yourself ..., Friedrich Neznansky. Alexander Borisovich Turetsky could not even imagine what could be the reason for his break with his wife. But it happened, and he left - from home, from Moscow, not imagining how dangerous, ...

If a woman is silent for a long time and is in constant thought - expect trouble. This idea is often heard from men. And sometimes it's true. If the lady has withdrawn into herself, she is tormented by some question or she is tired. Moreover, some individuals actively show their dissatisfaction, openly expressing emotions. It is easier for them to help in case of trouble. Others prefer to think everything over, “digest” in themselves. There are practically no problems from such women. But is it easier for them?

What are the pros and cons of unity? And what if it takes too long?

Self-care - is it dangerous?

Psychologists say that there is nothing wrong with periodically spending time alone with yourself. Moreover, it can be a useful activity, because solitude:

• allows you to better know your true desires;
• helps to analyze the current situation, life in general, to draw the right independent conclusions;
• makes you sort out the chaos around, putting everything on the shelves;
• frees, gives a good rest from other people's emotions, imposed opinions and stereotypes;
• encourages setting new goals, thinking about the best ways to achieve them;
• teaches you to take care of yourself, love, accept and appreciate yourself;
• relaxes, relieves the burden of fuss from the shoulders.

The need for regular healthy solitude is especially acute for introverts. They do not avoid communication, they are able to enjoy it. However, conversations, other people's experiences take away their strength. Time alone with themselves helps them to restore their internal energy, to rest in order to go out into people again. This is a temporary measure.

But what if the need for silence and emptiness lasts too long? In this case, the situation threatens with alarming consequences:

• conscious isolation from society, loss of work, favorite business, friends, relatives, livelihood;
• decrease in emotionality, expression (external expression of feelings);
• the development of depression, neurotic conditions, apathy or psychosis;
• loss of interest in life and all its components;
• suicidal thoughts;
• physical illnesses on the basis of psychosomatic problems;
• loss of orientation, the difficulty of getting out of an oppressed state.

If at least 2 such signs are traced, this is an alarm signal. Given the seriousness of the situation, it is better to start fighting it right away. But how?

What to Do When You're Lost - 6 Steps

Know yourself, find the main problem

Since the deepening into oneself has already taken place, one can take advantage of it. This will require a desire for introspection and a deeper acquaintance with oneself. At first glance, everything seems quite simple. However, in reality, self-knowledge leads to difficulties - the recognition of one's own mistakes, the need to change oneself. Not everyone is able to do this. For such a move, you will need all the desire to live happily, motivation, strength. How can you recognize yourself:

• pass psychological tests;
• visit the office of a personal development coach, psychologist or psychotherapist;
• fulfill your little spontaneous whims;
• listen to intuition;
• meditate;
• keep a diary, write down plans, desires, goals, thoughts, feelings;
• think about the reasons for their actions, analyze their consequences;
• try something new - from an unfamiliar coffee brand to a hot air balloon flight.

One of psychological methods suggests using a blank sheet of paper and a pen or pencil to get to know yourself better. The paper is drawn into four equal parts. In the resulting cells are written:

1. exciting problems;
2. the most joyful moments experienced;
3. actions that were not committed due to fears, excuses;
4. risky steps, something that was scary to do, but the panic was overcome.

Why is this needed? The difficulties laid out on the sheet seem already less complicated, because they have been recognized and accepted. Joy from the past is motivation, proof that happiness is worth the effort. Regrets that have arisen because of imperfect actions are the result of isolation, the rejection of a fulfilling life. The overcome risk, determination, described in the 4th cell, is a treasure trove. The successful completion of such cases is an argument in favor of the fact that sometimes it is better to discard patterns, trust yourself, take risks. Failure moments are experiences from which wisdom grows.

Relax

Rest is the next step. At this stage, it is important to gain strength and energy for future decisive actions. In this case, it is better to take time for yourself:

• watch your favorite movie, series or read an interesting book;
• play a musical instrument;
• take a pleasant foam bath, light scented candles;
• sleep well;
• play with your pet
• sing or dance while no one sees or hears;
• take up your hobby;
• order food at home, getting rid of cooking, long fees in a cafe or restaurant. Sometimes eating sushi in an old faded tracksuit, with chaos instead of a haircut, with a sleepy face is the best pleasure.

However, it is better not to delay such relaxation - it will become a habit. As soon as the forces are restored, it's time to move on to the next stage.

Go outside

No matter how much you would like to sit at home for an extra day, it is still desirable to explore the outside world. Find out how the prices of products have changed, for example. It is not necessary to immediately go on a week-long camping trip or join a crowded crowd at a big concert. Enough:

• visit a small cozy cafe with delicious cuisine, muffled music, large windows;
• go shopping (book, grocery, textile - any), and it is not necessary to buy something;
• go to the cinema;
• visit an amusement park, landscaped square;
• feed the birds in the square, near the reservoirs;
• order a horseback ride;
• ride a bike;
• buy ice cream, find a shop on the main street, sit down and watch passers-by, nature, weather.

The point is to change the environment. She takes her mind off the tightness. Ideally, it is desirable to get to know someone. However, if you don’t feel like it yet, or it’s scary to decide on such a move, it’s not necessary to force yourself. By going through the following steps, you can easily get rid of these problems.

change habits

It would be nice to stop smoking, biting your nails, overdoing alcohol or nervously tapping your fingers on the table. But in this step, it is not only bad habits that are involved, but also good or neutral ones. If at the previous stage it was important to change the environment around, then this phase requires changes in oneself. Now more attention is paid to the rejection of personally created standards, labels, templates. What can be changed:

• type of breakfast components (instead of coffee - scrambled eggs, instead of scrambled eggs - oatmeal, instead of oatmeal - pancakes or pancakes, and so on). The same applies to dinner, lunch, afternoon tea;
• any route - to work, mail, to the store, salon, home;
• own image - clothes (colors, styles, styles), accessories, shoes, makeup, manicure, hairstyle;
• type of transport, including public, as well as bicycles, skateboards, rollerblades, even skis;
• the order of usual actions (for example, start painting nails with the right hand, and not with the left, as always);
• working hand - work more with the left hand if the person is right-handed and vice versa;
• type of activity - both work and leisure.

Why change already established habits? With such changes, the brain begins to work more actively, learns to quickly switch between different tasks. Boredom, routine, a feeling of constant fatigue, longing disappear.

Workout

Everyone knows about the advantages of a healthy lifestyle, sports, it makes no sense to list the advantages of this way of life. Except one.
Proper regular physical activity increases self-esteem, self-confidence. That is exactly what a woman who has withdrawn into herself lacks. These qualities are so important because they help:

• achieve your goals;
• perceive defeat as an experience, additional knowledge, motivation to try again;
• meet people of any status;
• overcome fears;
• set clear goals, successfully fulfill them, move forward;
• be yourself, respect, love your inner world, appearance;
• enjoy achievements without regrets, notice happiness.

Sports activities will help open up, prepare for the next important step.

Tell about yourself

It is very difficult for a person deep in himself to talk about himself, his own experiences. This rule applies to both outsiders and relatives. That's why the previous 5 steps are so important - they prepare you for the most important stage.

Who and what to say?

Yes, to anyone - a neighbor on the landing, mom, a psychologist, a random fellow traveler, a new acquaintance in a bar. And anything about yourself - experiences, preferences, thoughts, attitudes, plans, goals, innermost and explicit desires.

The main thing is to understand that the outside world:

• not as cruel, scary as he is described;
• inseparable from normal life;
• full of unpredictable joys, miracles, surprises;
• allows you to find yourself, your own happiness, calling;
• opens up new opportunities, gives amazing chances;
• teaches, motivates, inspires.

If a woman is tired of constant communication, has withdrawn into herself in order to take a temporary respite, there is nothing to worry about. However, prolonged solitude threatens with loneliness, depression. Time spent alone with yourself is valuable, but only up to a point. If there is no desire to return to society, no one is needed and nothing is wanted, it is time to change the situation. The tips in the article are the first steps of self-help. However, for the best effect, it will not hurt to consult an experienced psychotherapist.

All week we work at the computer, and then we go to a nightclub to throw out the accumulated emotions. But this is not a vacation, but a change in the type of activity. Again, energy consumption. When the resources are finally depleted, we find no other way out... withdraw into ourselves.

This form of self-defense can become so appealing over time that we resort to it more and more often, go into a fantasy world where we feel safe. And now we constantly live where we are understood and accepted as we are - in ourselves.

The best sedative

Every person needs to be understood. Retreating into ourselves, we find such a partner and friend - we ourselves become them. This person does not need to explain anything, he likes all our thoughts, tastes, views. He will not criticize us. Self-care is nothing more than making up for the lack of attention, understanding and love. And the danger is that this deficit imperceptibly develops into a strong psychological defense.

Physically you are present, living, doing everything that is required of you, at home and at work, but internally you withdraw and close. Communication with outside world becomes minimal, the only person who does not cause irritation and does not force you to hide and defend yourself becomes you.

When the temporary becomes permanent

We all need to recharge and rest from time to time. But when the pace of life accelerates, we are forced to rest even while working and communicating with our family. So we go into automatic mode, there is a feeling that we are both here and not here at the same time.

Imperceptibly, our whole life turns into a beautiful dream, in which there is no point in showing feelings, achieving something, fighting for something.

Our detachment is especially noticeable to relatives, it is becoming more and more difficult for them to communicate with us, it seems that we have become indifferent, distant, closed, we do not hear anyone and are not interested in anything. At the same time, we ourselves feel incredible inner comfort: we feel good, calm, we have nothing to strive for and nothing needs to be proven. This is how addiction and dependence on communication with oneself occurs.

The less success in the outside world, the more we withdraw into ourselves.

We do not feel loneliness, because we have already become for ourselves those who are able to understand, support, share all painful experiences and show feelings. So over time, we cease to open up at work and in the family, our strength is fading, there is no replenishment of energy resources. And as resources are exhausted, communication with the outside world is reduced.

And by that time there are enough reasons for this. For example, lack of money, health problems, problems in the family - there are so many of them that you are forced to live in a mode of saving energy and emotions. And we do not notice how the whole life turns into a beautiful dream, in which there is no longer any point in showing feelings, achieving something, fighting for something. As if we already understood everything about this world and decided to go to a more beautiful one, where there are no problems. In his inner life you become what you always dreamed of being: loved, in demand, talented.

Living emotions and feelings in virtual life, we stop doing it outside, because of this, reality becomes less and less attractive

There are situations when you need to withdraw into yourself in order to recover from severe stress, intense work and other overloads. If this is a short-term "care", then everything is in order. But often this condition turns into a habit, a way of life. We replace any action with an escape into ourselves. Instead of moving forward, developing, we drive ourselves into a corner of loneliness and unfulfillment. Sooner or later, this "reclusion" leads to a breakdown. A person turns into a neurotic personality, everything irritates him, he goes through even small life tests with great effort.

What to do?

1. Reduce the time you spend on the Internet and watching TV. Living emotions and feelings in a virtual life, we stop doing it outside, because of this, reality becomes less and less attractive. We must not forget about the need to be here and now, in the real world.

2. Replace communication with yourself with communication and interaction with others. Meet friends, talk about something real and really important, try to get out of closed mode in any way. Closure is the overlap of energy exchange with others and with the world in general. You react only to your own experiences and at the same time are deaf to the experiences of others.

Sooner or later, your friends will get used to the fact that you are not around, and you will also receive less and less attention and love from them.

Sooner or later, your friends will get used to the fact that you are not around, and you will also receive less and less attention and love from them. But we replenish our energy resources with the help of communication as well. And this does not always require a certain person or time, it is enough to go outside, visit public places, sometimes even non-verbal communication helps to recharge. Go to a concert, to the theater, go on a trip - you can even travel around your city.

3. Increase and maintain interest in your life. Often we withdraw into ourselves only because at some point we were disappointed in life and people. Everything that surrounds us no longer seems exciting and interesting to us, we become skeptics. We all know that nothing surprises us anymore. Such thoughts make you go deep inside yourself, engage in self-digging. But life is full of discoveries, you just need to decide on changes: in yourself, in your routine, environment, interests and habits.

Start doing something that you did not dare to do before, but what you have long dreamed of. Translate your thoughts and desires into action. The main rule of any change is to act.

4. Take care of yourself and your body. To return to real life First of all, you need to restore the connection between the body and consciousness. When we withdraw into ourselves, we are physically inactive. Therefore, in reality, they are inactive, our entire path is the road from the car to the office chair and back. It is through the body that we feel reality, we feel what is happening to us now, at this moment.

The easiest way to get yourself in motion is general cleaning. Put things in order. This does not require special training. You just need to get up and start. If you're really having a hard time, take on just one room, or just wash the bathroom sink. When people withdraw into themselves, they take less care of their home and themselves. Start cooking for yourself only healthy food, look for new recipes. Be sure to go to the gym or to a group workout to physically interact with others. This will help not to get stuck in yourself, to switch to the outside world.

Let other people, feelings, impressions into your world. Believe in yourself and be persistent. Open yourself to this world, and it will become even more interesting and beautiful, because you have joined it.

about the author

Trainer, psychologist, psychoanalyst. Her website.